"Why I Didn't Hire a Planner, But Wish I Did"

I was reading an article on the Huffington Post not that long ago and it really struck a cord with me. This article was a repost from The Reflective Bride and you can read the original article here. The story came from a former bride who was reflecting on her wedding day and everything she wish she had done differently. In all honesty, it was kind of a sad article. I felt bad for this bride, even though she goes unnamed. My heart broke as I read about her groom running around picking up last minute necessities on the day of his wedding and the awkward feeling of having to ask for help when no one really offers. 

What everyone thinks of when they hear "wedding planner" but life is not like the movies.

What everyone thinks of when they hear "wedding planner" but life is not like the movies.

Below are some excerpts from the blog post and my commentary below:

I wanted us to handle all the preparations and vendor research ourselves. I thought it would be fun to do the research, and also felt that us looking into the suppliers was the only way to know all the options... so that we could make a truly informed decision and ensure we got the style we liked at the most reasonable price — not simply a wedding planner’s “usual” contacts. My groom was more than happy with this conclusion, since it saved us an extra line item in our bridal budget... and we were indeed worried that a wedding planner would be quite expensive.
— The Reflective Bride

I get it. You want to look into all of the vendor options. You want to make informed choices. But what happens when you unknowingly make the wrong choice? When I ask for the names of the vendors my clients have already hired, sometimes I actually cringe. I feel bad because they have hired someone who used catchy phrases or booking gimmicks but I know from first hand experience will not provide them with the idealistic process they had hoped for. 

Wedding planning isn’t always fun. Sure, it’s a ball to ooh and aah over cake designs or swoon over pictures from potential photographers… but there’s nothing enjoyable about researching mini-buses for guest transport or making seating charts.
— The Reflective Bride
This beautiful farm is located in Paris, Illinois 

This beautiful farm is located in Paris, Illinois 

No, it is not all fun. Sometimes we have to figure out where your guests are going to go to the bathroom when you decide you want to have an intimate ceremony in a field of sunflowers. Enter in luxury restroom rentals

There is a lot of logistics that go into planning a wedding. Trying to do it all is really rough. 

There is a lot of logistics that go into planning a wedding. Trying to do it all is really rough. 

It is not possible to handle everything for the wedding planning yourselves, so if you don’t have a wedding planner you either have to ask help from others or handle everything things yourself. Even if you do have someone offer to help, you may not want to burden them with tasks.
— The Reflective Bride

Save yourself the headache, heartache and most importantly, fights with your S.O. you are not superwoman/man. Realize your possible limitations and call it a day. It may be time to call in the pros. This poor bride and groom! Ah...all of the feels for them! Granted, their wedding is long past and they are writing about what they wish they would have done...I still feel so sorry for them, because it did NOT have to be like that. She didn't have to wish that they day would "just be over" you only get one (maybe two...okay, three...after that, just elope!) shots at making this a memorable day. Thinking back on a wedding day should be filled with joy, excitement and fond memories. Not stress, exhaustion, fights and most importantly, regret. I try to live my life by never regretting and I make sure my clients do the same.