Are you afraid of your wedding? Are you afraid that your guests won’t have any fun? That you might step on your dress and rip it? Do you wake up in cold sweats having nightmares about messing up your vows? I am here to tell you: “Be Not Afraid” Never before in your life, did you care about what shade ecru was, until now. Did you even know ecru was a color? If not, be not afraid!
When all is said and done, nothing will matter except you both are married and you are in love. Do not let the many little details that need to be done at the very last minute throw you into a stress-induced downward spiral. Your friends and family mean well, however, they are not the professionals. They have only their past wedding experience or their opinion. Trends have changed and etiquette is vastly different than it was 30 years ago. If having friends and family helping you begin to cause stress instead of relief, perhaps you might need to look into investing in a wedding planner.
Wedding planners are an investment in your mental sanity. Wedding planners are here to make your life easier. While it is an additional expense, let me give you a few tips on how to ease into the idea of hiring a pro!
Find someone who you connect with. Do they get your sense of humor? Do you find them trustworthy? You will be spending a lot of time with this person.
Make sure you understand exactly they will and will not help you with.
Make sure you are aware if they take more than one wedding/weekend. You do not want to be splitting time with another bride on your wedding day.
Find someone who will be as involved or not as involved as you wish.
Find someone who can help you manage your budget. Not having someone monitor your budget is the #1 way to blow the budget.
I am here to tell you, be not afraid! Wedding planning is tough but you will get through it. Even if you decide to not hire a professional, you will survive. You might wish the wedding to come and go as fast as possible, but you will survive. You will live to see another day. In the end, you will walk away a married couple and begin your new life...together.
If you are still waking up with nightmares, talk to your friends and family. They do not want to see you suffer. Yes, weddings are tough. They are usually the largest event you will ever host in your life. They are full of opinions, ideas and conflict. They do not have to destroy you. And if all else fails. You can always call me. I am happy to help bear the load.
If you still have questions, scroll through some of my old blog posts. I have plenty of ideas on how to kick fear in the face by being prepared and planning an epic event.